Friday, February 4, 2011

True Love Or Obsess?

Sometimes, when you breakup with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you still cannot forget her/him no matter how hard you try. Thus make you believe that he/her is your true love and you try and try to get him/her back tough you know that he/she already get a new life, new girlfriend/boyfriend, get engaged or get married.

What is true love? Do you really know what is is? If you do not know, click here to read more about it. One thing about true love is you will always ready to let go if it makes the person you love happy. Not hunting him/her down until they hate you. Obsess is an uncontrollable feeling toward your ex and you are willing to do anything to make him/her yours again. You cannot let them go and still hoping you can be together again. Does it sound like  love to you? Check more about love and obsession here .
Why do you cannot let it go? Have you ever think about it? Just how many grieving time you need to move on? and what stage are you now? As long as I concern, there are five stages in grieving which are:
  1. Denial
  2. A denial stage is when you are in denial and cannot accept about the end of your relationship. You keep on thinking that the breakup is not for real and you still believe that your ex will come back to you.
  3. Anger
  4. Anger is the stage where you will try to find who to blame for the breakup. You will continuously thinking about it and always end up with getting angry with yourself or others.
  5. Bargaining
  6. Bargaining is the process where you will beg for another chance to get your ex.
  7. Depression
  8. Depression is the stage where you will be sad all of the time and feel like you cannot do anything. You feel like there is no hope for you anymore.
  9. Acceptance
  10. Acceptance is the last stage where you will be able to forget your past and move on. 
Some people keep staying in the first stage, what a waste of time. I remember someone very close to me told me that we just have to open our heart and eyes, in order to find a new life, new love and new hope. You will say that easier for me to say right? But, if the others can move on, why can't you?


Chayo-chayo....



21 comments:

EJA said...

bf saya sekarang adalah cinta pertama sa..huhu..really love him..good info from u.. love this entry..

Didz said...

Keep on moving on for god has more better plans for you. That's what I keep telling myself whenever I'm feeling down.
My hubby was my 7th bf, haha!
Thanks for sharing bel ;)

beanizer_05 said...

hmmmmmmm...i'm too young for this *running, licking lollie*

btw, you are tagged! visit my instincts' :)

Zezebel said...

EJA, hehe hopefully kekal sampai ke anak cucu a...

Zezebel said...

Didz, hehe good for you for being able to get a new life and didn't get stuck with memories. Kalau terus terkenang cinta lama, tak jumpa la ngan suami tu sekarang kan? hehehe...

Zezebel said...

Beanie, don't run away. Here's a lolly for you, come here and read this post, hehe

Diplo_Daddy said...

Those are some great tips. Sometimes it is difficult to let go of the one you love--or think you love.

Zezebel said...

Diplo_Daddy, yeah, some people don't have enough courage to move on, I pity them so much.

akubiomed said...

Every couple wish their love will last forever like fairy tales but in reality it isn't

Zezebel said...

akubiomed, haha. So true, but not everyone think the same. They tend to get stuck in the world of fairy tales.

Samadrita said...

I guess it's hard to tell how a person will react to a break-up. Depends on his/her level of involvement in the relationship. Also given the kind of fickle love relationships one gets to see now-a-days, people take break-ups as everyday happenings. It's like...I can always get another girlfriend/boyfriend. But things change if one is really in love with the other person.

Zezebel said...

Thanks for dropping by Samadrita. For me, if they really love their ex, they should let it go. Even if she/he really crazy in love with their ex, but there is no use to fake the reality especially if their ex already found someone new. What is the point of hurting the feeling of their ex's loved one? Does it will make their ex come back to them?

gadisBunga said...

i moved on within 2 months for my 1st ex and only 4 days for my 2nd ex. guess i learned the lesson reallyyy well. hihi~

Fuziani JSR said...

"Bila bercinta.... janganlah serahkan sepenuh hatimu kerana dia bisa pergi bila-bila masa sahaja". Ibu pernah membisikkan kata ini di telinga ketika mula aku mengenal cinta dan ibu benar kerana akhirnya hubungan kami berakhir.... tapi aku menerima tanpa setitis air mata.

Zezebel said...

hihi..wah hebat tu, caya la GB. Tapi betul lah kan? nak buat apa pla get stuck dgn kenangan, hehe

Zezebel said...

Fuziani JSR, betul tu. Tapi memang betul2 tabah la kalau sampai tak menitis air mata.

beanizer_05 said...

lollie?? *wide grin*
running back to zee, i won't reject an offer *grabbing lollie, peeled, licking lollie* tent you!
ok i'll read *reading*
oh..oh...obsession-scary levels..i know how to yove..*blink blink* i yove my yoyyie!

ahem! don't forget the tag ..hehe! *evil grin*

Zezebel said...

hahaha..Beanie, I wont forget but will be a bit late..hehehehe

Anonymous said...

Fuziani JSR - yupz u're right.. Love? it takes no time 2 fall in love but to know what true love take years..

Zezebel said...

Anon, sorry, it take time for me to fall in love. and to know what true love is, I just have to find the answer through my heart, not depend on time.

little_starladz@yahoo.com said...

This is interesting subject, I have been there and I know how it feels. Hahaha, but also good to know that there are stages to overcome. Great info, I will pass it down to friends. :D

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