Monday, October 25, 2010

How to forget your ex

I am not an expert but I see many of my Facebook friends are mourning everyday about their break up. Everyone like to put in their status on how much they missed their ex. Today, i want to share with everyone on "how to forget your ex in just one week". As long as you follow all this guidelines, I don't think you will remember about him/her ever again. This is just a help to all my Facebook friends who recently have a break up though. I am not an expert, some of my advice maybe will not suitable for someone. Feel free to add or comment about this list.

How to forget your ex in one week guidelines:
  • Motivate yourself everyday. Try to motivate yourself everyday by saying "you need to move on with your life". Do it before you go to sleep and at the early hour in the morning. Break up will normally bring your mood down. You need to motivate yourself to bring the good feeling in you again.
  • Don't be alone. Go out with all your best friends and do something that can keep your mind occupied and lighten your mood. Please make sure you don't talk about your ex. If any of your friends asked about him/her, just say you don't want to talk about it and just want to have some fun with your friends.
  • Please don't try to sms, call, chat or even look at his/her Facebook (or any social media) account. Be brave. When its already a break up, you need to make sure you can move on with your life. Any contact with him/her will only make you regret for what happen. It will feel weird at first since you normally spent almost your entire day together. Suddenly you're alone with no one to text, chat or call. But you need to accept that it is over.
  • Try list down all the bad/negative thing about your boyfriend/girlfriend. The list will help you forget about him/her well doing. Its not easy but you will try to forget the pain faster then the fun, right? If this will make you remember about him/her more, please skip this one. We try to forget not try to remember.
  • No "just good friends" relationship. Unless both of you already accept that break up and can understand that you two are only friends now. Wait at least one year for "just good friends" or until both of you already had a new relationship.
  • Put away all the gift he/she ever give to you. Looking at the gift will make you remember every good memories with him/her. Put them in a box or somewhere that you cannot easily see. Return them to him/her as soon as possible is always the best solution.
  • Erase all his contact from your phone, your books, email address and your social network account (Facebook, Twitter, Myspace etc). Make sure you also delete all his/her email and sms that you received and sent to him/her. Just make sure you really cannot find any contact about him at all, as soon as possible.
  • Be active. Don't just sit on your couch watching Movies/TV or online in Facebook, mourning about your lost. Its not the end of the world. Try do something that you cannot do when you're in your relationship with your ex. Get out of the house and try have some fun. Staying in the house alone will only help you remember more about your ex.
  • Find a new boyfriend/girlfriend as soon as possible. Its not easy but that is the fast solution. Just remember to tell your new boyfriend/girlfriend you just had a break up. It maybe will help them understand about your mood at the moment. But please, don't compare your new one with your ex. Just have a nice time with your new boyfriend/girlfriend. If the activity involve something that will make you remember about your ex, please do tell. But no talking about your ex.
Just follow all this list and try to be strong. Break up doesn't means it is the end of life but what it's really means is that it is a start of a new life.

Chayo-chayo....

49 comments:

en_me said...

kita kawann kann bahh.. ihiks

Didzy said...

Hahaha..I'm not an expert too when it comes to love :P but I like the last tips the most.. :) I think that is the MOST EFFECTIVE way.
Hmm, what is your own way to forget your ex, zezebel? :P

StellaClaire-Richard said...

wow..this is good advice.
I dont have any break-up experiences.
But this one should help.

Have a great Monday.. :)

Zezebel said...

en_me : Ye, kita kawan-kawan saja...ehehehe

Just said...

I strongly agree with no sms, call, chat or even look at his/her Facebook (or any social media) account and also no "just good friends" relationship.

Whatever it is, no one else can help u other than urself. :D

Zezebel said...

Didzy : Haha, I have done almost all of it.But the most effective one for me is "Try list down all the bad/negative thing about your boyfriend" wahahaha..and my conclusion after the list down is "Jantan keparat" haha.

Zezebel said...

StellaClaire-Richard : Thank you, you have a great day too k, :)

Zezebel said...

Just : Yep, totally agree with you. It's all depend on our courage to dare to move on from the past.

levian said...

good points! the easiest way would definitely finding someone new, n hopefully not just a replacement. it works n help us in appreciating the experience.

*MrsMartinez* said...

This is a nice post. Of course, it's not applicable to married one like me lol
If I may add, as my dad would say, once you leave the man, leave him for good. You don't deserve him. And always remember, there is always a better man out there!
chayo chayo!
xoxo
MrsM

☆ lieya latif ☆ said...

good info belle.....tapi tu laaa....mmg susah nak lupe...lagi2 kalo dah lame berkapel...mauu berendam air mate gituuu huhuhuhu

Zezebel said...

levian : Hehe, everyone have their own way to get rid from their past right?

Zikri Husaini said...

last tips..it works... hehe...

Zezebel said...

*MrsMartinez* : Thank you, :) and I really like what your dad said to you.

"once you leave the man, leave him for good. You don't deserve him. And always remember, there is always a better man out there!"

Zezebel said...

☆ lieya latif ☆ : Memang la sedih kalau dah lama couple. Tapi kena move on juga. Anggap je si dia tak cukup baik untuk kita..ehehe mengajar orang yang lebih berpengalaman la pla...

Zezebel said...

Zikri : Haha, good to know that.. :)

donny said...

nasib baik suda limpas pasal ni :)

Zezebel said...

Donny : Sudah limpas? Bah, share la ba tips kau untuk mengatasi kekecewaan itu, hehehe

MushroomCute@Mariea said...

How to fine new boyfriend as soon as posible? Yang ini sangat susah lah...huhuuhuh

Elvyra Mait said...

olredy 4get about him..
thanx..ni tips bnyk membantu juga..

p/s: sy pun rasa tips terakhir yg bnyk membantu..hahahaa

Zezebel said...

MushroomCute@Mariea : Kita mencari jangan nampak ketara sangat, hehe. Kena banyak senyum dan ikhlas kalau nak berkawan. Sebab semua tu akan nampak dari mata kita. Dan jangan sesekali takutkan lelaki dengan perkataan berkaitan komitmen di awal perhubungan. Kita buat ala-ala jinak merpati gitu...hehe

Zezebel said...

Elvyra : Haha, sebab bila tiada pengganti, rasa sunyi bah kan? itu yang buat kita terkenang cerita lama.

lina said...

tu dia, Zezebel the relationship (or should I say, the breakup?) expert. LOL

All good advice tu...

Zezebel said...

Lina : Auwww... Malu lah.. *Blushing* haha

gadisBunga said...

ok, tips untuk mencari pengganti ada tak? hihihi

Zezebel said...

GB : Tips untuk cari pengganti? haha, dah dua orang yang tanya, kalau ada lebih sepuluh orang yang nak tips cari pengganti, buat post baru la nanti..hehe...

suri said...

jinak merpati hee...rasanya kucing lagi mudah dekat adalah hee...

oh cinta janglah kau pergi..

Zezebel said...

Suri : Haha, takde dalam simpulan bahasa. Kalau boleh tukar, kucing lagi comel dari merpati, kan? kan?

mankuchai said...

Try list down all the bad/negative thing about your boyfriend/girlfriend<--- dah tak suka hanya nampak keburukan jer la kan he3...masa bercinta sudah berlalu,dah anak 3 pun he3

Zezebel said...

mankuchai : Hehe ada juga orang yang tak nampak keburukan ex mereka tu. Masih berkabung dan meratap, terkenang saat-saat manis..hoho.
Orang yang dah kahwin kan lebih berpengalaman, sesuai la untuk bagi tips cara-cara nak melupakan EXnya...hehe

Anastasia Ann said...

aku senang jer, get over it! dah putus putuslah apa nak ingat lagi kan. euwww

Zezebel said...

Anastasia Ann : Yup, Teramat la setuju hehe..buat apa nak kenang orang yang tak sudi, kan?

etomyam said...

wah bagus sekali tips ni, kalau boleh apply untuk ex-boss pun orait jugak ni :D

Zezebel said...

etomyam : Untuk ex-boss? hahaha..sesuai ke?

Faarihin said...

very a good tips.. like to read it.. hehehe.. (^__^)

p/s: semangat bila baca tips2 cam ni.. hahaha..

Zezebel said...

Faarihin : Hahaha.. ok tu, penting semangat tu.

Sumandak Kinabalu said...

Good advice...
Memang susah mau dipraktikkan dan semuanya bergantung kepada diri sendiri. Boleh menangis tapi jangan melampau :)
Paling penting, teruskan kehidupan tanpa bayang-bayang kisah lalu. Kuatkan hati dan semangat...

Syafrizal said...

jangan dengar lagu jiwang, citer jiwang.. dan yang ada kena mengena dengan jiwang hehe

Zezebel said...

Mandak : Saya faham maksud kau tu hehe.. Biar macamana kuat dan kerasnya hati kita pun, memang akan menangis juga. Tapi jangan la sampai berendam air mata sentiasa, takkan ke mata...hilang comel nanti sebab mata jadi bengkak hehe

Zezebel said...

Syafrizal : Good point you have there..hehe

annfrendly said...

nak melupakan orang yang kita sayang memang susah sangat...

tapi...
point yang last tu paling berkesan untuk ann melupekan orang yang tak berkenaan :)

ONN said...

Punya banyak org komen ni, tp sy mau juga menyisip. Kadang2 feeling tu tiada sudah ba, tp yg susah mau buang tu habit bermesej n calling. Tu based on my own experience lampau la. Kunun sudah break tapi gatal juga tangan mau mesej tanya khabar.. bila difikir balik, it was just texting habit instead of "love".

Zezebel said...

Annfrendly : Dah ada orang baru, tak de masa dah nak mengenang cerita lama kan? Hehe...cerita baru lagi penting..

Zezebel said...

Onn : Nasib baik lama kelamaan kau sedar juga la yang tu semua just a habit kan. Some people tidak akan sedar tu..kadang-kadang tiada cinta dah dalam hati tapi kita sendiri yang tidak mau keluar from the past..

akubiomed said...

I'm Doctor love advice but you still have parent to talk and share your feeling. They may able give good advice too. Love is sweet but the same time it can turn pain if you broke

Zezebel said...

akubiomed : Kadang-kadang ada ibu bapa yang tak terbuka dengan anak-anak, macamana nak buat kalau berdepan situasi sebegitu?

Nilam Kencana said...

I made myself active after breaking up with my ex of 6 years. Went to the gym almost everyday and focus on myself, not him. Managed to lost 5 kgs, looked way better, and shopped more for new clothes..!

Zezebel said...

*clap* *clap*
Thats the spirit Nilam Kencana.
Life must go on. They're many guys out there waiting for you. Break up doesn't mean its the end of the world.

swapnanjali said...

the first thing i want to say you that first you need to be satisfied with yourself..and believe in the words that for our happiness we are bound...but not the other person...better to let go the situation...if you are thinking that you are not able to control it ...my main aim is to share here is that we need to maintain our inner stability in all situation and for that first we need to know ourselves ...

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